Ok, so it’s been a while since I’ve blogged. To be totally honest with you I’ve been doing the facebook thing lately. And I plan to put this post on my facebook page as well because I really have the need to vent.
I’ve been working dilligently on my book, even though I haven’t put any posts here. I am currently editing and formatting the second part of the book, all the while learning that I am going to have to go back and “re-edit” and “re-format” the first part as I learn a better way to present the material.
Last night I couldn’t sleep. I have been having a real struggle deciding how I’m going to approach the third section of the book, and last night ideas began to flood me. So now that I’ve got a general idea of what I’m going to do, I must put greater pressure on myself to finish the editing so that I can give a couple of printouts to a select two or three people to read and give me their input. But that’s not why I need to vent.
So why do I need to vent? I need to vent because of something I have seen in other people that now drives me totally nuts. I have seen this in others for a LONG time, and have just written it off to the wind. But in the last two to three years I’ve been re-examining what I believe and why I believe it. And through this process I’ve discovered that I can no longer write it off.
The first thing I discovered about this thing is that I have been just as guilty as anyone. As a matter of fact, I (like the apostle Paul) could say that perhaps I was the “chief among them”. So I had to deal with it in my own life. I have endeavored to cut this thing out of my life with the intention never to allow it to rise up again. I don’t proclaim to have reached perfection in this at all, but one thing I do . . . you know the scripture (Phil. 3:12).
So what is this thing? It’s when you speak to someone about something that isn’t right in their life, or something that they said that wasn’t quite “right”. And all you get in return is some form of justification, defense that you just didn’t hear them right, or “I didn’t mean to say that”. . . or how about this one? . . . “Well what about when YOU do THIS . . . . “
GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!! (My wife tells me that when you put all caps on words like that you are “yelling”) . . . . well . . . . I’M YELLING! I’M SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS!!!
Alright then . . . perhaps you didn’t communitcate the best way. Perhaps only ten percent of the total discussion you released was not right. Perhaps 99 percent was right, and only one was wrong. . . . .
Why can’t we take responsibility for the one percent? What is it about us that wants to refuse to receive, accept, take ownership and deal with the FACT that we are flawed? That we are going to mess up? And that God has put others here to help hone us?
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend” (Prov 27:17). I guess that’s one of the verses in the bible that we just don’t like. Put it right up there with the promise that we’re gonna suffer and that people are gonna hate us just because we follow the Christ.
We don’t like this because sparks fly often when iron is sharpening iron. I think we all need to just get over ourselves and accept that we’re imperfect (yes, I know you don’t think that you’re “perfect”). We need to know that we don’t always have to be right (yes, I know you would NEVER say that you are always right). We need to know that we need other sets of ears and eyes to help us see how we look and sound (yes, I know you would never disagree with that) . . . . .
But we kick against the goads until we’re bleeding! And then we blame the maker of the goads for hurting us, while all along we’re the ones who kicked them. Not only that, the ones around us were trying to tell us what we were doing and we were so busy justifying what we were doing that we ended up bleeding all over everybody.
We just need to get over ourselves. We need each other. I need you to tell me when I have egg on my face because I don’t always have a mirror to look at myself! But we simply let folks that we say we love walk around with egg on their face because deep down we know that there’s a better chance than not that if we tell them about it they will tell us we’re wrong. “It’s not egg! I’ve just turned my face in such a way as to catch the sun and reflect it to the world”!
Have I said the we just need to get over ourselves???